Fitting in will always leave you feeling less-than

Why do we fight so hard to fit in? Why do we sacrifice so much of ourselves for a life filled with exhaustion, shame & self-loathing?

What is really driving our need to fit in?

Is it the…

  • Fear of being found out. 
  • Fear of being rejected. 
  • Fear of opening an emotional flood-gate
  • Fear of not being loved.
  • Fear of being judged 
  • Fear of not being good enough
  • Fear of not belonging
  • Fear of losing what you do have

Yes and…


Here the truth about fitting in

By forcing ourselves to fit in, we waste all of our time and energy trying to be loved and accepted by others and we end up sacrificing the love, approval, trust and authentic connection with the one person in our lives who matters most…ourselves! 


What are we being told (sold), from a young age, that conditions us to believe that it’s ok to suffer and hate ourselves as long as we are liked by everyone else? 


These are simple questions with deep complex answers that are rooted in the antiquated patriarchal system we find ourselves in. And they are questions that my guest Deirdre asked herself when she could no longer keep up the socially acceptable facade she had created. 


What her fitting in looked like

She is a successful mom of 4, Author, Speaker, Wellness Influencer, Founder of HighGate Racing (Canada’s largest all female competitive cycling team) and, unbeknownst to just about everyone in her life, she was once a crack smoking hooker.


The courage to break the fitting in facade

How could someone with a deep and shame-filled secret find the courage to write out her entire life story, share it openly with her family and friends and through it all learn to love herself? 


For Deirdre the answer was inside a safe loving community and ultimately, when she found her way to the page. Her book, Unfold Me, is the product of her courageous leap beyond fitting in.


We all have our own reasons for fighting so hard to fit in

I know it sometimes feels like the only option and that the alternative is lonely & unfathomable. But through beautiful and powerful stories like Deirdre’s we get to be reminded that …


“Shame depends on you buying into the belief that you’re alone, and the bottom line is that it cannot survive being spoken.”

~ Brene Brown ~ 


Let Deirdre’s story inspire you to find a way to speak your truth, own your story and embrace your F’N awesomeness!

Connect with Deirdre:

Deirdre’s Dance Party Tunes:

  1. Shake It Off – Taylor Swift
  2. I Don’t Care – Ed Sheeran & Justin Bieber
  3. Unforgettable – French Montana ft. Swae Lee

Hey there Busy AF Superwoman!!! 

It’s time for you to re-write your story and embrace your F’N Awesomeness! 

Dive into The Hot Mess to Awesomeness Podcast, get your hands on my Book – Write Through To You: The beginner’s guide to journaling and find out why they call me the Inner Critic Whisperer! 

Listen to The Awesome Inner Critic Busting Playlist inspired by the guests on The Hot Mess to Awesomeness Podcast and start clearing out your inner critic’s crap right now with your own kick-ass DANCE PARTY.

Dionne Thomson Life Coach