How the Elements of Authenticity actualized for me…
When I first started out on this journey of self discovery, one of the most profound things that happened was that I literally burst out from behind the cinder-block wall that had me imprisoned within myself… safe… guarded… paralyzed. And there in the light of day, I realized that not only was I capable of much more than I knew, I wanted to do so much more than I ever thought possible.
Actually it was very early on at around the 4-5 month mark that I literally decided to do everything (not just anything but everything) my heart desires. And in true “the universe has got your back” fashion, I was able to carve out time, find the energy, find the money and received overwhelming support, for everything I wanted to do.
Fast forward a year and a half. Looking over the body of work I had created, the world I had re-invented for myself, I saw joy at every turn…and I realized one thing was missing, I couldn’t see the connective tissue. I knew that every facet of my multipotentialiteness was being expressed, however for the on-looker, my life looked pretty random, exciting and awesome yes, and scattered haphazard.
I knew that everything that I sunk my heart into was deeply connected to my inner self. To the part of me that functioned to serve a clear set of core values.
Here are my Core Values, (in no particular order)
Through the act of writing these down and reflecting on them often, I began to twist together the connections between all the parts of me. I clearly knew what I enjoyed doing, and I knew that I flipped back and forth from art to writing and from anxious to peace. No stage seemed to be permanent and yet always returned. From this work I slowly began to develop a framework, an understanding of the how and why I did what I did.
From the labour of reflecting, reconnecting and recreating my Self,
The Elements of Authenticity was born!
The Elements of Authenticity is the process by which, I believe, many of us move through on our journey from living lives built on the expectations of others to ones filled with intrinsic joy and authenticity. As we move through the four Elements of Authenticity we turn the ruts of our habits into the smooth grooves of our soul.
Grounding (Stillness & Acceptance)
Movement (Learning & Growth)
Spark (Creativity & Expression) &
Flow (Gratitude & Joy)
Through the development of this framework I have been able to clearly define my purpose in this world.
I know there are countless women in the world right now suffering. Not thinking their lives are of any interest, wondering what their purpose is. They see others with “passions” and desperately want to be them and resent them with every ounce of their being. They have no idea how they could ever find the time. They “know” no one will understand…
They “know” they will be ostracized, ridiculed and that their HUGE fucking secret, that they feel worthless, will be discovered.
They are telling themselves that if they just keep doing what they are doing, only better, then things will get better. Their children will start to appreciate all of their hard work. Their colleagues will genuinely see how hard they work and will take the time to acknowledge them…eventually. They believe that if they could just organize (and control) their home, office, friends, partner, children, community they would finally feel fulfilled and purposeful. They “know” that is what they are supposed to do …
And they know this because every person, every system, every organization, every magazine, every TV show & every commercial they have ever seen has told them so.
They are pushing the pain down, really, really, really fucking far. They are burying it under booze, Facebook, gossip, food, shopping & bingo. And every night when they go to bed the little voice whispers…
“I hope tomorrow is different, better…
not sure I can handle another “today”.
I know they are out there because that was (is) me and I know now, that I am not alone. You know this too. You know who they are. You know if this is you. And now I know that I was meant to take this journey, so that I could help fabulous women (like us) all over the world to truly align with their most Creative and Authentic Selves.