I discovered my superpower this week, yesterday actually…
In a way it was challenging and beautiful…
The universe has begun to align the pieces that I have been setting my intention on. The challenge was accepting all that was laid before me.
I have known for a while now that I want to give more time and energy to my coaching business, that I want to be present and show up for not only myself, for you as well. I have declared it, asked the universe to provide it and well… she listened.
Yesterday I was presented with an opportunity to leap into my new life in January. I would still have some of the stability of my day job, be afforded an additional 15 hours a week to focus on my business and I would have more flexibility and time to give to my family.
Sounds like a no-brainer right?!?!…
1 thing…with less hours at the J.O.B. means less guaranteed income.
What it really means is that I will need to step up my game…really become an entrepreneur (and no longer just talk about being one) and start to make some real money at this coaching thing.
Easy peezy, lemon squeezy…right???
Not so easy…all the same fears I have been having for months, that I thought I had worked through, started coming up again…Who do I think I am leaving a secure job? For what…coaching? Really? Who the hell is going to want to pay to talk to me? How will I ever support my family? I’m going to let people down. They are going to figure out I’m a fraud. The world revolves on word of mouth…I’m screwed.
…enter Kristi, Helen and Charlotte.
Ok wait…a little history first…
For the past year I have become happily aware that many of the strong relationships that I have formed with some of my co-workers are because of coaching and mentoring. Early on I realized that the best part of my day was when a co-worker, friend, would come in to just talk (which happened everyday :)). Up until that point, most of my leadership life was filled with people coming to me for “advice”, for “answers”. Now I could see that I didn’t solve people’s problems anymore, I spent more time asking them how they felt about their problems. I didn’t assume to have the answers as I could never truly know what their problem meant to them.
When my friends come to talk to me now they know I won’t sugar coat my thoughts or feed them bullshit I think they want to hear.
I won’t commiserate or placate their negative thoughts.
I hold space for them.
The impact has been palpable. My friends openly comment that after speaking with me they can see things more clearly, that their problem seems more manageable. Communicating is this way does something to me too…I feel supercharged and whole. I now seek out these interactions and ultimately look for ways to incorporate more of these types of conversations in my life. Enter the thought …
“Could I do this thing that lights me up full-time?
Could I make a living at “being of service” to magnificent people who need my superpower?”
The answer is yes and yes with a caveat…
“Now go work your ass off to get what you want”.
Working my ass off has included this blog and website, all kinds of training, increasing my social media presence, getting my own coach and more importantly more focus and attention on those moments where natural coaching and mentoring occurs in my everyday life.
I honour each moment when I am able to share of myself and revel in the exchange of positive energy that occurs when I get the chance to really communicate with another soul.
This still happens at work, perhaps a bit more than before, as I now seek out those moments which fuel me up and keep me going through the parts of my day that are required but not stimulating.
Ahhh Bertha…Thank you.
Thank you for doing your best to keep me safe…
Don’t worry I’ve got this.
I have uncovered my superpower…
I am the keeper of space, I am a mentor, a muse.
I have the power to create and develop relationships with individuals, with people, with souls who, one at a time, save themselves and move the planet one step closer to the divine. Wow…that is some deep spiritual shit…I didn’t even know I felt that way until it appeared on the screen. I am not meant to solve the problems of populations, to design and conjure cures for the masses. I am here to give time and space to you and through your positive experiences and actions you will be an integral part of the solution to the world’s problem – negativity.
So back to Kristi, Helen and Charlotte…
3 beautiful women who I have shared time and space with, each of whom have graced me with written words of kindness about their experience with me as their friend, coach, mentor, holder of space. During that challenging time yesterday, when fear had begun to do it’s best to keep me safe from the harm of humiliation, I visited the kind words of my friends and felt assured that I was on the right path.
No need to battle with Bertha, she knows that this is where I am supposed to be…on this new path, moving towards my superpower.
Thank you Kristi, Helen and Charlotte your words saved me from myself.
“Dionne is someone you can talk to easily and relate to. She never makes you feel less perfect than you are…she never judges you and is always looking for the positive in any situation…no matter how difficult your situation may seem, she will help you through it. If you feel like you need to change something in your life, something negative to positive…talk to her!”
“Dionne has been a constant source of wisdom, knowledge and grounding for me. From the first moment I spoke with her I was instantly filled with energy and positivity. This is just the natural effect she has on anyone who interacts with her. She brings out the best in me. She doesn’t just fix the problem, she shows me how to do it myself. I have never met anyone with such powerful communication skills. She always makes me feel supported. Knowing this has given me the confidence to take on new challenges.”
“Talking to Dionne is so easy. One day we just started chatting and before I knew it I was sharing with her some personal issues. I wasn’t asking for advice – just talking. She didn’t give advice or try to tell me how to fix my problems. What she did was better. She just talked about a few things in general and about some other people she knows and things they did – including herself and some changes she made in her life. She told me how she changed just a few things in her life that made a huge impact on her stress level. After my conversation with Dionne I actually felt inspired and somewhat compelled to actually take action. We all have friends who will listen to us and commiserate with us and feel our pain with us. But that isn’t what we all need all the time. We need someone who can hear us without the emotional baggage. Someone who isn’t just going to say ‘there, there’ and walk away. Dionne has this ability to say it how it is. No bullshit. No comforting just for the sake of comforting. Really – if you have issues and you actually want support on making change in your life – you want to talk to Dionne. She has experience, knowledge and a way of sharing information that actually empowers you. And Dionne actually followed up with me a few days later to see how I was and called me to action (in the nicest way possible). It was the little nudge I needed. I made the call I had procrastinated for a very long time. It helped. I made a small change which led to some improvements in my daily life.”
I am humbled and energized by the kindness shown to me through the words of these friends. I will carry them with me through each challenging step towards my own magnificence.
All good things are rooted in love, laughter and learning!
P.S. If you are interested in starting the conversation that will lead you to your magnificence let me know HERE!!