I am an Elements of Authenticity Expert
As a Mindset Mastery mentor, I help busy, tired, overworked Everything for Everybody Women, who feel like they “are not enough”, to create a sense of Balance, Purpose & Wholeness in their lives.
Through writing, speaking and creating, I spark ideas and mindset shifts in others. My passion and purpose, to share my most authentic self and super-power of vulnerability, have led me to become a global leader and educator providing concrete and effective transformational programs that support sustainable change. Learn more about the programs available…
Over my 20 year career as a leader and mentor in a variety of roles, I have gathered a vast amount of knowledge and skill. From everything I have learned I curated the Elements of Authenticity TM framework providing wrap-around support for the multi-faceted, high-achieving (and often highly compartmentalized) Type E (Everything for Everybody) Woman. Learn more about the Elements of Authenticity…
I believe that vulnerability is my (our) greatest super-power and I wield it through my narrative work and mentoring programs. You can get a sense of who I really am and what I have gone through to become an Authenticity Expert and Type E Stress Specialist by reading my blog. (Got the time…start at the beginning!)
I am a true believer in the power of story. A magical moment occurred for me, when I realized that my story mattered and that by sharing my experiences of vulnerability, pain and joy, I could help other women to better understand (the shared) experience of being Type E (Everything for Everybody). I often have the pleasure of sharing my experiences live as an inspirational speaker with lived-experience of being, surviving and thriving as a Type E Woman. Find out more about my speaking schedule…
Connection is my #1 Core Value and I would love to make this friendship official!
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What is a Everything for Everybody – Type E Woman
The Type E concept was created by a dedicated and passionate researcher (and Type E Woman). Dr. Harriet Braiker was a social and clinical Ph.D. psychologist, best-selling author, and internationally-renowned expert in women’s issues. She was the first to publicly identify that women experience more and different types of stress than men. Her pioneering book, The Type E Woman: How to Overcome the Stress of Being Everything to Everybody, made mainstream and medical news around the world when it was first published in the late 1980s. In that book, she observed that the Type-A stress that was being experienced by men, pales in comparison to what women experience. She coined the term “Type-E stress” – the E being Everything to Everybody – to help women better understand that in trying to be Everything to Everybody, they subjected themselves to a completely different and more debilitating type of stress than men experience. Her work nailed down and really dug into what it means to be stretched thin, compartmentalized and suffering under the stress of wanting it all.
According to Dr. Braiker, the Type E Woman arose during society’s transformation from 100% patriarchy to the less than 100% we are currently being “graced” with. In the 60s & 70s we (society) experienced a revolution, women in droves began to enter the male-driven arenas of the workforce. A significant percentage of us began to “climb ladders”, take on leadership roles and began to be openly recognized for impacting significant areas of science and tech (in ways only rogue women of the past were able to do).
Side Note on “Rogue Women” of the past:
What I have observed when reading or hearing about the female change-makers of the past (i.e.Headstrong 52 Women who changed Science and the World) were patterns of sacrifice and passion. Many of the highly influential and genius women of the centuries past, had to sacrifice “being a woman” in order to accomplish their brilliant birthright. The female scientists and doctors, programmers and social workers, driven to change the status quo (regardless of their personal intent) and unabashedly share their gifts with the world often did not marry, nor have children. Many did not care for a home (often living where they worked) or socialize. They committed themselves fully to their passion (similar to their male counterparts of the time) giving up the socially acceptable and typical female role. Those that were able to find “balance” between their careers and families did so with enormous support and money (not to mention some very open-minded and forward thinking friends and family).
And here we sit…middle-aged exhausted women, generations away from many of the sacrificing change-making women. Living with a shared mindset that we are free to do whatever we want, be whatever and whoever we want. There is not one industry we can not thrive in and yet we are currently more depressed, we suffer more anxiety and burn out at an alarming rate. Why is that?
Because we (as a generation and society) have not been given the tools and strategies to get really clear on how to “have it all”. The female super-heros of the past appeared to understand that in order to have what they most greatly desired, to live out their purpose, they needed to let go of the societally defined role of “women” in order to carve their own path to greatness. I am not saying that the women of the past had it better…what I am saying is that they seemed to have a better understanding of the system and the rules (albeit they were severely limiting).
Are you a Type E Woman who would like to Break Free?
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My experience as an Everything for Everybody (Type E) Woman
I have been told my entire life by powerful and amazing women (and men) that I can absolutely have it all, family, career, home, social life. What and amazing time to be born into…freedom. Right?
Many women, like me, are grateful to the mothers and fathers who fought through the 60s & 70s, who empower us to believe we could do anything and yet we now find ourselves butting up against the pre-defined gender roles we grew up observing them play out.
Everyone does the best they can with what they have, and our parents believed that things could be different for us…even if they felt it was too late for them. So as a result we now struggle to play out all the roles we observed to achieve all our dreams. And we are failing, not knowing how to balance being 100% Mom, 100% Wife, 100% Career Women, 100% Homemaker, 100% Engaged in our communities…the math doesn’t work. Our role models varied and that variety opened our minds to what humans, all humans can be truly capable of. And in response to generations of women being stifled, held back and forced to sacrifice, we the freedom generation have dutifully stepped up and claimed our place in every arena. However one small piece of the puzzle was missing from our generation’s education, missing from the script. How! How can we be it all and remain connected to our whole selves and make the math work? How can we see who we are in all we do, as opposed to seeing all we do in who we are.
“I can no longer separate myself and become an entirely different person for each role I inhabit. I am exhausted from changing hats and my persona numerous times throughout the day. I choose to be whole. One person with an enormous skill set and passion for growth. I choose to wear one hat, my core values hat, and it fits in every role.”
There is a reason we, Type E (middle-aged) Women are seeking out wholeness activities…yoga, practicing mindfulness, building meditation habits, exploring energy work, discovering creativity, engaging in ongoing (non-crisis) therapy…we are waking up and coming to terms with the idea that although we (and our well-meaning role models) had great intentions we were (are) missing that one crucial piece, that nugget, of how we can be our whole-selves without trying to be more than our selves.
I wonder what we are modelling for our children…who are great mimics and terrible interpreters. Are we re-living our own well-intended experiences…sharing verbally the values of an informed and open parent while modelling behavior that circumvents our intentions or at the very least creates a dichotomy/disconnect between our values and our actions? Are we talking to our children about what we want, why we do what we do and why we are choosing wholeness over “having it all”?
I believe that the number one way to impact and influence the next generation, our children, is to become the person we dream them to be…Problem-solving, risk-taking, courageous, compassionate, loving, transcendent beings who believe in being challenged and getting back up again. Who understand fear and don’t fear it. Doing so would be the greatest gift we can give them, ourselves and the universe.
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How I Started…Why I Continue
When I first started out on this journey of self discovery, one of the most profound things that happened was that I literally burst out from behind the cinder-block wall that had me imprisoned within myself… safe… guarded… paralyzed. And there in the light of day, I realized that not only was I capable of much more than I knew, I wanted to do so much more than I ever thought possible.
I found the courage to Break Free from the compartmentalization I had used to “stay safe”. I started to practice self-compassion in order to step away from the compulsion to be 100% of every role and become 100% of myself, my most authentic self. By uncovering the parts of each role that aligned with my core values I was able to truly connect to my true self and decided to explore all this new awareness afforded me.
Looking over the body of work I had created, the world I had re-invented for myself, I saw joy at every turn…and I realized one thing was missing, I couldn’t see the connective tissue. I knew that as I pulled together pieces and parts that served me as I enacted every facet of my multipotentialiteness which was exciting and awesome, it was still a bit scattered and haphazard.
I knew that everything that had passed through my values filter, all that I had sunk my heart into, was deeply connected to my inner self. To the part of me that functioned to serve a clear set of core values.
Here are my Core Values,
(in no particular order)
Connection, Gratitude, Love, Joy, Vulnerability, Growth, Depth, Ease, Alignment, Creativity
By reflecting, reconnecting and recreating my Self
I was able to twist together the connections between all the parts of me. I slowly began to develop a framework, an understanding of the how and why I did what I did, what Type E women do.
In Her Element was born!
Interested? Let me know where you would like to be and how I can help you get there.
(keeping reading below to find out about my many roles)
I am a Multipotentialite
I am so excited that you have meandered over here to see what I am up to…follow me on my journey, or better yet I invite you to give yourself permission to run alongside me on your own journey reflecting, reconnecting and recreating your Self!!!
multipotentialite: term referring to the ability and preference of a person, particularly one of strong intellectual or artistic curiosity to excel in two or more different fields. It can also refer to an individual whose interests span multiple fields or areas, rather than being strong in just one…so yeah I think that we all have a little multipotentialite in us…set yours free!!!
Check out my creative side HERE.
I am a soulful creative with a growth mindset but it took a long time for Art to find me…Continue reading
Read my Blog HERE
Sharing my story is so important (to me)…read about the moment I knew I was a blogger HERE.
Book a FREE 30 min Discovery Session HERE to find out if the Elements of Authenticity is right for you.
I came to realize that even before the training, before the years of studying, before the years of practice, I am a mentor; I just hadn’t realized my potential. I have been supporting and motivating people along their life journeys by sharing my story and connecting to our shared experience since I was young. After reflecting, reconnecting and recreating my Self, I uncovered my inner truth, my purpose for being on this planet…I am here to help, brilliant women align with their most Creative and Authentic Selves. Learn more…
Book me as the inspiration speaker at your next event HERE.
Today I am a proud and confident inspirational speaker and there was a time in my life when I had little to no idea where my life was heading let alone the courage to stand up and tell my story…. Then I met a man who shared one thought with me that changed the trajectory of my life forever… Continue reading HERE.
In 2011 I became a mom at 35 years old…like most moms I know, had no idea what I was doing (read here for the 1st of many not-so-stellar parenting moments). And really I still don’t know what I’m doing, but I love my kids and my husband and I know that by working on being my best self I will be the best mom and wife that I can be.
Like thousands of women, I had a really hard time in the beginning. Read about my postpartum breakdown (yep that happened!!). Now, years later, I am stronger after having been broken. I see life differently, I breathe deeper and pause longer, I think clearly and reflect often and (I think) we have all benefited!
Writing gave me permission to begin my life, to start living undivided…through writing I am able to see, hear and feel things that normally escape my conscious thoughts. When I write it is like opening a window to my soul…Continue reading.
I am currently working on a book, a reflective piece that following my specific journey from where I was to where I want to be. Writing for me has healing qualities and this book about my past, present and future is the perfect medicine. Stay tuned for the release date.
My first real writing experience was my Master’s Thesis, a personal narrative about my journey to authenticity. Although it took years to create it was well worth it. The moments I spent researching and reflecting on my past were powerful and rewarding. Through my writing I uncovered thoughts, ideas, plans and connections I didn’t know existed. If you consider yourself a nerd like me and geek out over academic journal articles, feel free to check it out…Dionne’s Thesis
I have replaced watching TV shows and Netflix series with TED!!! (true story)
My current top TED picks are…Continue reading
I once read that if everyday you replace one hour of TV with one hour of reading you could potentially read thousands of books in your lifetime. In doing so you would enhance your brain’s capacity to maintain high level executive functioning well into your twilight years (not to mention you get way smarter…whaaaat!!!) So in an attempt to stave of losing my marbles in the not to far off future I have committed myself to reading everyday.