In Her Element Blog

Art Found Me

I married an artist, I am wowed by artists, art makes me feel deeply, the energy of music brings me to tears, observing creativity in action makes be feel like I am floating but I could never, would never...I am not a creator. I was born to be a fan...I actually have the loudest clap of anyone I know, so I figured it was true, I was born to ride the sidelines and just be...

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Nice to Meet You

Every new mother would describe it differently, but it is a tale as old as time, a story, I feel, that when told can never be fully understood until lived. I found myself 1 year postpartum looking in the mirror and finding the reflection unrecognizable. There were glimpses, shapes, and shadows that triggered memories of who I once was, but that girl, the clean lines and a place for everything and everything in its place...

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My First of Many Parenting Mistakes…

What did I learn in the first few days as a new parent… ridiculous question... I learned nothing! Because learning requires thought and I was too f'n tired to think. I lived moment to moment, made decisions with my gut, took the well-meaning advice of others, tried different things (most didn't work), tried to follow lessons from a book (which almost ended my marriage), I cried (a LOT) and I drank a shit load of coffee but at no time would I say that anything...

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Be Your Best Self

Do you sometimes feel stuck, unsure, and a bit jealous of all the people out there doing it, really doing something with their lives, taking risks, being happy? I felt that way to! When it got bad, I mean like sit on the couch in the dark feeling sorry for myself bad, I would numb myself with whatever was within arms length...TV, social media, gossip, food, booze. Then, with a slight shift in my perspective, I...

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Not Until

Photo: Woman on Fire (C. Aikins, 2016) Sometimes I can’t believe that I have made it here in what seems like a blink of an  eye. Does that sound corny? Yes I know it does but recently I have been feeling pretty corny and sappy and all around euphoric about the direction my life has taken. In June of 2015 I had the melt down…you know the one where for months I couldn’t control my emotions and I...

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Just Start Writing

Thinking about thinking, that is what I found myself doing that early morning, the rain was pounding down in a beautiful song coaxing my thoughts to rhythmically be drawn from my mind. The day before I had started a list of stories I wanted to tell, a book of stories I wanted to write, a list that grew to over 100. Stories that still repeat in my mind on a regular basis, stories that I have been re-telling but had not...

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