In Her Element Blog

Learning to Surrender by falling on my face.

Excerpt from Numbing to Knowing (D. Thomson, unpublished) Learning to Surrender Where do I begin? Was I spinning when I put the wine in the freezer, just in case? I was spinning, absolutely spinning and only when I decided to make a chocolate pudding pie did I feel a bit grounded. What does that mean? Does it mean anything? (I was learning to surrender...I just had no idea what that meant.) I said to Dave that...

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Do we still tell them they can have it all?

Here's the crazy thing... I did not have a bad childhood. Growing up I had a lot to be happy about...people who loved me, a roof, food, clothes, hope, money (was available), my parents worked and were (are) good people. I had traditions and holidays, birthday and Christmas wish lists (that were almost always fulfilled). I was encouraged and supported. I was in good health, attractive and I was never without a boyfriend or the...

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How to harness the power of Everyday Courage.

My darling friend you have courage, the Everyday Courage that it takes to survive and thrive everyday! Share your dreams with the world! (Even if it's only a whisper in the dark before you go to sleep) Dare to believe! Be willing to do the work! Reach out...You are NOT alone! Today is the day to follow your heart. What is Everyday Courage? It's the courage to get up, get dressed and say no, say yes,...

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Why I felt the most vulnerable right before I said no…

Okay here's the deal...starting something new, big, bold, tiny, monumental, life-changing, inconspicuous, heart-felt , values-driven...(pick a reason any reason) is scary as fuck. Because starting or more to the point, deciding to start, is required for shit to get better...and sometimes we decide that our fear of the unknown is greater than our desire for change... I say fuck that!!! Yes there will be some scary moments...and yes you will second-guess yourself...and yes people may...

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So many of us are Everything for Everybody Women. Are you Type E?

What is a Type E Woman The Type E Women concept was created by a dedicated and passionate researcher (and recovering Type E Woman), Dr. Harriet Braiker. She was a social and clinical Ph.D. psychologist, best-selling author, and internationally-renowned expert in women’s issues. She was the first to publicly identify that women experience more and different types of stress than men. Her pioneering book, The Type E Woman: How to Overcome the Stress of Being Everything to...

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The bravest thing we can do is listen

I don't need my ears to listen Recently  I chose to be brave and I decided to not focus on what I "should do" or what "has to" get done and did my best to listen to what my heart was telling me. Come to think of it, I am working on listening to 2 core areas of my body that really know what is best for me, and practicing letting go of what my...

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Do you have it takes to step into your power?

Do you ever feel like life is set up to knock you down? Do you sometimes (often) feel powerless when dealing with the people and situations around you (and not to mention within you)? I get that you might be thinking... "My life is NOT that bad Dionne... thanks but no thanks. I know things suck sometimes but I don't walk around feeling powerless." So I wonder what you would call that feeling you get,...

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Do you know what values drive you?

Do you have a values filter? A series of values you pass all potential decisions through to determine if they match what is most important to you? For a long time I paid no attention to my values (not consciously anyway) and every time I chose to do something that went against my core values I felt uneasy, angry, resentful, stuck, lost, wrong. In those moments, where I chose to sit in the shitty feeling...

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How taking responsibility can change your life

Do you sometimes feel stuck, unsure, and a bit jealous of all the people out there doing it, really doing something with their lives, taking risks, being happy? I know I did. When it got bad, I mean like sit on the couch in the dark feeling sorry for myself bad, I would numb myself with whatever was within arms length…mindless TV, social media, gossip, food, booze. Then, when the pain got to be much to...

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Elements of Authenticity. How I Started & Why I Continue

How the Elements of Authenticity actualized for me... When I first started out on this journey of self discovery, one of the most profound things that happened was that I literally burst out from behind the cinder-block wall that had me imprisoned within myself… safe… guarded… paralyzed. And there in the light of day, I realized that not only was I capable of much more than I knew, I wanted to do so much more...

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