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I am an Authenticity Expert and Mindset Coach. As a writer, speaker, coach and artist, I inspire women to break free from the “shoulds”, discover their purpose and find balance and wholeness in their lives.
10 years ago I was deep in the throes of people pleasing, perfectionism and the imposter syndrome. I was a proud badge wearing everything for everybody woman. I had little to no idea what made me happy and all to infrequently, I would let myself desire something different. I was stuck, so stuck that I didn’t believe I had any control…I believed that life was just happening “to” me!
I played out all the shoulds…I went through life like it was my job to just check things off the socially acceptable to-do list…University, good job, clean house, clean husband, clean dog, beautifully symmetrical gardens and an active social life. I could cook and entertain like Martha, prided myself on my sex appeal and my ability to “open doors”.
I gave and gave and gave like a good girl…and I was empty AF! Numb and oblivious of the fact that I was NOT happy!
Then just over 5 years ago I experienced a major shift…motherhood. A planned but unexpected catalyst for my much needed break through. During my first few years as a new mom, with zero clue as to what I was doing, I quickly realized that I had no idea who I was…and I wondered if I ever did. I realized that I had no choice but to break open and figure it out. My girls deserved better than my usual modus operandi…full ostrich mode…ass in the air and head in the dirt.
And break open I did…
Out came the shame, and the pain, the anxiety and the depression. I ran the gamut of self-help books and reached out for anything, anyone who could help me to understand what was happening. I learned that I was waking up.
Looking back on that time, I realize that I, the best version of my Self, has always been here. It was just that for some reason, more to the point, for many small and a few big reasons, I walled myself up in a cinderblack room. No light, no door, the ultimate safe room. And there I stayed for 20+ years. The shell of myself, the version I showed the world, simply went through the paces of living, doing everything for everybody, desperately trying (and failing) to meet everyone else’s expectations for (of) me. I walked through life, just waiting for it to happen.
My most debilitating coping strategy to deal with relinquishing my power, was to try and control what was not mine to control…my friends, family, home and co-workers. My perfectly written reports and deviled eggs. Gasp worthy advice and noteworthy drinking habit. I took charge, answered questions (sometimes that were never asked). I revelled in my ability to set people straight and assumed my “rightful” role as leader wherever I went.
And the more I tried the emptier I felt. Early on in my awakening I started to finally take control of the one thing I owned out-right…my mind! I learned that I could decide to believe in, and control, my own happiness, my own joy. And I realized that I could create the life I thought only other people had. When I took responsibility for my experience of the world and stopped believing that life was happening to me, everything…I mean EVERYTHING changed!
Bring on the band and the flashing lights. I see a celebrity playing me in the blockbuster movie of my life…Ta Da!!! Woo Hoo!!! This was the most remarkable moment in my life. From that point on the cinderblocks began to fall, one by one, and I used those blocks to start the journey to my most authentic self.
After many years of self-discovery, self-love and taking responsibility I have come to understand my true purpose. To honor the life I’ve lived and the lessons I’ve learned, by sharing my gifts with the world. My writing, my artwork and most passionately how I mentor and coach women, who like me, lived far too long boxed up by the “shoulds”. Women who know that there is a part of themselves just waiting to break free. A part that longs for happiness. A part that wants to want and who desires to live purposefully not dutifully.
- To help you to experience the joy of looking inward and getting clear on what you really want.
- To help you reflect, reconnect and recreate your life as you rediscover your Authentic Self.
I have honed my intuitive coaching and reflective practice skills. My clients know that I have the capacity to connect with the magical part of themselves they are desperate to find.
Working with me is like…
Taking a road trip with an experienced navigator. You are in the driver’s seat, deciding whether to hit the gas or the brake. I am your knowing guide, having been down this road before. I’ll ask you where you want to go, how you want get there and what you want to see along the way. I can help you to avoid forseeable obstacles and tackle the unexpected ones. And like the most desirable map reader, I know when to speak up and when to let you trust your gut. I am here to guide you on your journey and help to get to your ultimate destination…YOU!
I am an Authenticity Expert
I am most passionate about helping you find your voice and supporting you as you align with your most creative and authentic self!
Let’s have a no bull-shit conversation about your purpose and the REAL possibility of finding balance and wholeness! My #1 core value is connection! I would absolutely love to hear from you.
Let me know what you are hoping for and how I can help. Tell me what has been working for you and where you want to see a change. Let’s get you on your journey to authenticity!
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What my clients are saying…
“Learning to listen to your inner voice and trust yourself to know what you want…well, that’s certainly not easy. At least it wasn’t for me. I was constantly hearing my inner voice shouting, yelling all the reasons why I was wrong for thinking/feeling/wanting something. Dionne taught me how to quiet the shouting and truly listen to my gut. To trust in my own experiences and knowledge, to do the hard stuff (even if it feels and scary) because you know it’s the right thing to do. She helped me to not only learn but to celebrate my authentic self.” – Leanne K., Marketing Manager
“Talking to Dionne is easy. With her experience and knowledge I always know that I will get an honest response. She challenged my thinking and helped me to shift my perspective. Listening and learning from her is always easy and comfortable. I was in a place where I was feeling overwhelmed with all of the roles in my life. I was lost and empty and experiencing anxiety and some signs of depression. I once asked Dionne “Why is this so hard?” She helped me to reframe my thinking and helped me to see that it didn’t need to be. She was able to connect to where I was in my life and her ability to coach and support me through my learning in such a way, where I felt cared for, supported and empowered. I always walk away from our talks feeling inspired and ready to use the do-able strategies she shares with me.” – Cindy Dupuis, Teacher
“Dionne has the ability to say it how it is. No bullshit. If you have issues and you want to hear real strategies on how to create real change in your life – you want to hear Dionne speak. She has the experience, knowledge and a way of sharing information that empowers you!” – Charlotte Parliament, Education Coordinator
“Dionne is a constant source of wisdom, knowledge and grounding. From the first moment I heard her, I was instantly filled with positive energy and felt compelled to take action. That is just the natural effect she has on anyone she speaks with.” – Helen Kuhn, Artist Muskoka Fox Designs
“Dionne is someone you can not only talk to easily but relate to. She never makes you feel less perfect than you are. No matter your situation, she never judges you and is always looking for a positive in any situation. Dionne is someone who has your best intentions at heart no matter how difficult your situation may seem, she will help you through it. If you feel like you need to change something in your life, something negative into positive, no matter how small, speak with her!” – Kristi Rose, Teacher
“Dionne thank you for coming and sharing your insights with us today. It’s clear that your reflective practice has changed your life. You are positively inspiring! – NR, Investment Advisor
The “official” stuff…
Over the 20+ years of my journey I have spent many years as an typical student…and earned a few letters behind my name…in case you were wondering!
Dionne Thomson, M.Ed, B.Sc (hons), NLP Coach, TLT
I have an Honors Bachelor’s degree in Biology from the University of Guelph and a Master of Education degree (focus on Leadership and Narrative Inquiry) from Nipissing University. I spent 2 years taking post-graduate classes at Centennial college in Workplace Wellness and Health Promotion and more recently acquired my Neuro Linguistic Programming and Time Line Therapy TM practitionner designation along with my NLP Coaching certification approved by the American Board of NLP.
I have been working in the field of adult education for 15 years providing guidance and coaching support for adults looking to overcome their barriers to education and success. During that time I become a certified facilitator of Bridges Out of Poverty. Along with my work as a coach, writer, speaker and artist I am currently working on launching a community-based poverty reduction intiative in my community.
As a passionate and committed member of my community I strive to support others, especially women, on their personal path to success!